Pregnancy – Post-Pregnancy Brain

If you think that you are getting oh so forgetful while you are pregnant, wait for a while and observe after you had given birth. I have to admit, really, that the brain will somehow deteriorate after the birth of the baby. The first born is bad, it will be worse for the second, at least that’s what I think after spending hours cracking my brain, trying to recall if I deposited little milkie’s CNY ang bao money into her bank account already or not.

It’s definitely frustrating, as I searched high and low for it hours ago to no avail. And I thought I kept seeing it since I’d put at some place that’s quite prominent. I don’t remember putting those money into her account but yet I ain’t sure. And somehow, that pea brain of mine can’t seem to recall anything, if there’s any at all. It simply don’t move. Sigh…

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Pregnancy – Dance to the Music

When you are so freaking burn off at work, you start to do weird things…

Well, it’s really nothing much. I was listening to some Christmas songs with my headphones and I thought, hmm… maybe my little milo would love to listen to some music. And so I did. I placed my headphones on my tummy (the volume isn’t really that loud, at 50% only) and within seconds, he started kicking and punching! It’s nice to think that he loves it and is dancing to the music! (OF COURSE there’s also a possibility that he’s telling me that I’m disturbing his sleep)

Anyhow, when you read on articles, it often mentioned that babies can actually hear noises when they are in the womb. The sound might not be very clear but they can still hear it. So I guess that’s where those “tai jiao” come from (education before birth). Thus, there’s always those readings and singing to the babies even though they are not born yet!

Believe it or not, but I will still try and do it for this second baby, as much as I can. Enjoy! *…frosty the snow man,…*

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Pregnancy – Flutters & More Flutters

It began somewhat like 2 days ago, when the frequency of the flutters started to increase, and the feeling getting more and more prominent. Is my baby getting stronger by the day? I guess it’s about time.

I’m currently in Week 18 through my pregnancy. And it’s around then that the butterfly flutters that you felt in your tummy area, the amazing feeling (which the men can never understand) that kept you wondering if it’s the baby inside you that’s moving, will get stronger and stronger each day. And soon, those flutters will become light punches and kicks, and eventually heavy punches and kicks that will kept you smiling throughout the day.

Yes, it might be annoying at times as it can keep you up all night, but its a sign that you won’t want to miss. Why? For a simple fact that you don’t have to wonder anymore how your baby is doing inside, unlike the first trimester where there’s totally no sign nor symptom (unless you want to consider morning sickness as one) at all.

Be patient, the flutters will come soon, especially if it’s your first child. Apparently it seems like first time mommies don’t experience as early as those who gave birth before. But I think it’s just a matter of knowing it because one has experienced it.

Enjoy the pregnancy!


My mum said that I seem to enjoy getting pregnant. I probably really do, especially during the process. Indeed, it really is an amazing feeling.

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Motherhood – Coping with Multiple Failures

Just heard a news earlier on, that the HCG level dropped to 35, from the friend whose wife did the implantation of the IVF process a few weeks ago. And then seconds later, the hospital called to ask his wife to stop taking the medication and let the menses start. That ends it all, for this round. This was the second time it failed. There’s 2 more reserved eggs for this cycle. I hope the next time round, it’s going to be a success.

It must have been a big disappointment, or worse, sadness, especially when it’s not the first time. Having an unsuccessful IVF is as good as having a miscarriage, and a definite known case. Furthermore, couples who went through the whole process of IVF are those who really, really (probably even desperately) wanted a child. For most of them, one is good enough, and it’s a grace sent from Heaven.

But perk up. Keep on trying. Don’t give up. You need to be positive and relax for a foetus to want to feel safe and carry on growing. And there’s so many positive cases around the world! A friend of mine said his friend became a dad only at age 47, after trying for a number of times. The point is, there’s always a chance as long as the female is still having their menstrual cycle. There’s so many other tips and tricks too. Just try it all, and you’ll never know when you might just conceive!

For the hubby, be there for your wife. As much as it’s a great disappointment for you, it’s even greater for the “mother”.

A tip from a mother who went through a successful IVF before – Rest and lie on bed as much as possible right after the implantation. Do not walk around even in your own house. Put a pillow under the buttock so that it’s elevated. Rest and rest, and rest. The fertilized egg cannot implant itself if there’s too much movement.

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Motherhood – Depression during Pregnancy

It’s not me. I never really intended to cry just because of that small little issue. But I just couldn’t help it. The tears simply flowed out by itself after some sad thoughts. I never wished to argue…

The above scenario happened not just once, but a few times throughout my whole pregnancy till now, and is still happening. I blamed it on the hormonal changes in my body, as well as the lack of sleep and rest, and lastly, a husband that wasn’t sensitive enough. I know I’m not alone, but so what?

Accept it. It’s tough. I mean, being pregnant. I’m really glad that I’d passed the stage of getting myself pregnant, but it seems like that was the easiest step of all. Now, there just seems to be an endless list of things to think and worry. Really. It’s not just about the physical part where you need to carry a big “ball” everywhere you go. With that big tummy, you can’t sleep properly, you can’t walk properly, you felt breathless, you can’t even reach your toes and cut the nails, you can’t dress yourself easily and the list just goes on…

What’s more? You worried almost everyday if the baby is fine, gets worse if the baby didn’t kick or move that much. Or that you’d accidentally fell down and what not.

And worse of all, those times where you can’t control due to all the hormones changing… from puking, to crying, to throwing tantrums, to needing more love and attention than usual, to craving for food.

That is, a lot to bear.

You are not to be blame. You shouldn’t be. And those people around you should show that little bit more concern than usual, especially the one who impregnated you. But shall that not be available, please, find someone who will always be there and will listen to you.

Prenatal depression is not something that should be neglected. If not taken care, it will continue till after birth (post-natal depression) which will probably be even more stressful than this.

For your baby, press on…

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Increasing Bra Size

Just two weeks after it’s been confirmed, I’d already noticed a significant increase in my cup size. Yes, you heard me right. Isn’t it something which some of the girls hope for? *LOL*

Anyway, when one is pregnant, the breast will become bigger and will feel swollen (and painful too), resulting in an increase in at least one to two bra sizes. This is usually one of the first few symptoms that’s noticeable, and is due to the hormonal changes in the body (increased levels of hormones estrogen and progesterone). And this change might continue slowly all the way throughout your whole pregnancy!

Not only that, as the body needs to change to accommodate the foetus, the ribcage might increase and thus result in a bigger chest.

So does that means you need to get new bras? WAIT A MOMENT!

Before you started spending tons of money on the beautiful bras for mummy, and then changing it again and again, maybe you can consider getting the bras extension instead!

That’s what I did. I didn’t want to keep on changing my bras. Especially if the cup size still fits. Thus, I decided to go for the cheaper option, which is to extend the bras strap so that the chest area wouldn’t be that tight, and to purchase a few bras with one cup size bigger than usual.

Well, enjoy the nice figure for now. I’m enjoying mine. *LMAO*

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Pregnancy – Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM)

I’m never really a staunch believer of chinese medicine, especially when most of its medicines come with a bitter taste, which definitely isn’t my kind of tea. But as I set out to start my new adventure, I decided to try it with an open mind. After all, I didn’t want my plan to fail. So that’s what I did, choosing the nearest TCM and looked for the one with the most experience.

I had to do it earlier since everyone told me it takes at least about 3 months to tune your health back. So it started somewhere in March, and then for the following 6 months, I obeyed what the doctor said. Drinking packets of powdered bitter medicine thrice daily. Cutting down on spicy, fried and cold food. No cold drinks at all (which will make the womb “cold” and thus difficult to conceive”). Tried to sleep before 11pm (which is supposed to be the BEST medicine according to the doctor). Tuning my body to ensure the best environment for my baby. And TADA! I’m pregnant! What’s even more amazing is, my friend who went with me for the past 6 months, got pregnant too!

Of course, it could possibly be helping just a small percentage or just a coincidence that both of us were pregnant around the same time. But I feel that there really is not much harm in trying since the medicine helps to tune the body more than inserting artificial germs or viruses.

And indeed, after that few months of downing the medicine, I do feel my body getting better, and there wasn’t much menses cramps anymore. Oh yes, if your menses always have lumps of blood, or bad cramps, it’s probably time for you to visit one too.

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Pregnancy – Tips for Getting Pregnant

Trying to get pregnant for the first time? And there hasn’t been much luck? Here are some tips to follow which might help you in one way or another:

(1) Stop taking cold drinks. No means no, be strict on this or else it’s going to “cool” your womb such that it becomes weak. It’s a myth? Who cares as long as it really does help!

(2) Get into the mood. Okay, fine, it’s difficult especially if you’d tried for quite a while and all the mood had long been gone. But just TRY. It’s going to help the body relax quite a bit.

(3) Relax. Go for a holiday. It’s good. Body really needs to relax in order for you to get pregnant. Who wants to stay in a house where one can feel the tension even from the inside?

(4) Positioning. *Cough* It matters, really. Just imagine shortening the “Journey to the Womb”. If you are wondering which position is the best, googled for “Missionary Position”. Remember to put a pillow underneath your butt.

(5) Gravity helps. A continuation from the above. DO NOT stand up right after that. Yes, you might feel a little dirty, but gravity does really help in this case, IF you are lying down.

(6) Ovulation. For those ladies with a regular menses, guess what, it’s definitely a lot easier for you to count your ovulation period, which for most people, generally it’s around the 14th day from the first day of your last menses. Basal body temperature can also be used to detect the ovulation period.

(7) Once every 3 days. Of course, you can’t be doing it everyday (for most people) especially when both are working. So here’s one nice tip, try at least once every 3 days, for 2 weeks from the end of your last menses. Good for those who are lazy to think and calculate. Reason? Sperms can live up to 3-7 days, so let’s just take the minimum number of days it lives in the uterus and inject more after that. And the 2 weeks should be suffice enough to cover the ovulation period.

(8) Sleep & eat healthy. Exercise too. Again, the baby needs a nice home (the womb). If it ever detects that it’s not good, it wouldn’t even want to stay inside.

(9) Detox. If you like to drink, good, it’s time to stop. If you smoke too, great, stop this too! Both of this can actually reduce the chance of getting pregnant. Furthermore, it helps you to save money too once you stop. So, why not!

(10) Healthy him. You know, it’s definitely not fair at all if all the responsibilities fall on the female. And yes, it definitely isn’t just about the female, the dad-to-be has got to do some controllings too. So, make sure he eats healthy and exercise too so that the sperm and count is healthy.

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