Everyone deals with their children differently. Some gave their children whatever they want and love them to bits, while some will insist their children to do certain things, irregardless of whether they like it, want to or not.
So for example, in the event if you want your child to sleep (since it’s already 10pm), but he/she insisted on continuing to play, and then making a fuss after that (crying and throwing a tantrum). What would you do?
Generally, I feel that one shouldn’t give in nor be too hard on the child. Either of that would be a little too extreme. Thus, for my way of approach, I normally would try the soft one first, before the hard one, and lastly again on the softer approach, which is the compromisation. So here’s the deal:
Step 1: Talk nicely to them and get them to sleep. If that doesn’t work, go to Step 2.
Step 2: Go hard on them. No, means NO. If they started crying or yelling, get them to calm down (a lower tone and volume might work better) before you go to Step 3.
Step 3: Compromise.
Children, to me, should be talked to in a way similar to that of adults (exclude all the sad and hidden agendas). They should know that in order to achieve something, one must know how to give and take. And also to let them know that they will not always get fully on what they want, so long they cry.
Parenting is hard work (yes, nobody said it would be easy). I’m still learning and am still training my baby. But I would say she roughly understands how I work nowadays. Especially with the help of her daddy who simply goes the hard way most of the time, it simply makes it so much easier for me to use the soft approach. Right, I’m the good guy, and he’s the bad. *LOL*